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10 Things to Know Before Dating a Bisexual Woman

Whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual, or something in between, relationships are hard. They take a lot of work to make them successful. All those fairy tales we heard growing up about how one kiss from your true love is supposedly the key to your happily ever after are just that – fairy tales. Relationships are tough. If you’re dating a bisexual woman, you may feel like your relationship is even tougher than other people’s. Honestly, though, dating a bi woman is no harder than dating anyone else, but there are a few things you should know going into the relationship.

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1. Yes, they really are bisexual. No, it isn’t a “phase.”

Being bisexual isn’t something women are experimenting with, and they aren’t going to “grow out of it” if given enough time. Most scientists and researchers agree that a person’s sexuality is determined very early on in life, with clues and signs of sexual orientation showing up as early as a person’s toddler years.

So no, bisexuality isn’t something women are going to “grow out of” just because they’re dating you or getting older. Just like you, bisexual women are attracted to who they’re attracted to; whether that person is male or female is irrelevant. So if you’re a man dating a bisexual woman, you should understand right from the start that that’s who she is, and you aren’t going to change her. As long as you accept her for who she is, things should be fine.

2. They’re just as faithful as heterosexual partners.

One thing bisexual women hate is when their partners are constantly worrying and fretting about the possibility of infidelity. Dating a bisexual woman doesn’t automatically mean you’re going to get cheated on behind your back. Bisexual women aren’t automatically predisposed to infidelity. If a bisexual woman cheats on you, it isn’t because she’s bisexual; it’s just because that’s the kind of person she is. Remember, straight people cheat too, and no one blames that on their sexuality. You’d never say, “She’s heterosexual! Of course she cheated on you!” Don’t say it about bisexual women either.

3. Bisexual women don’t automatically want to have threesomes.

Don’t assume that just because you’re dating a bi woman you’ll be having threesomes every night. There are some bisexual women out there who enjoy a good threesome every now and then, and there are some bisexual women who would be happy to have a polyamorous relationship with you and other people, but that certainly isn’t the case for all bisexual women. Just because women are attracted to both men and women doesn’t automatically mean they want to be with both sexes – or even two people of the same sex – at the same time. Polyamory and bisexuality aren’t the same things. It’s important for you to understand that.

4. Some bi women still prefer one gender over the other.

This sounds contradictory to what it means to be bisexual, but it’s also true. Just because a woman is attracted to people of both genders, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t still have a preference for one gender over another. Sexuality is a spectrum. A woman can be bisexual and still prefer to date men, or she can fall on the other side of the spectrum and be a bisexual woman who prefers to date women. This doesn’t mean she can’t or won’t fall in love with someone whose gender is the one she least prefers; it just means she’s a little more predisposed to date one gender over the other.

5. They may be sensitive about their sexuality.

Just because a woman is open with you about her sexuality, that doesn’t mean she isn’t still sensitive and private about it. Please don’t go around telling everyone you know that you’re dating a bisexual woman. Sexuality is something about which many people are very private. If she was comfortable enough sharing her sexuality with you, don’t betray her trust by turning around and telling everyone you know. Her sexuality is not something for you to brag about with your friends. If she wants people to know, she’ll tell them.

6. She doesn’t automatically become “straight” because she’s dating you.

If you’re exclusively dating a bisexual woman, she’s still bisexual. A bisexual woman dating a man isn’t suddenly heterosexual, just as a bisexual woman dating a woman isn’t a lesbian. Try to avoid the need to label everything. That will make things much simpler and less confusing.

7. Bisexual women don’t “need” sex with the other gender to keep them satisfied.

Another offensive assumption people often make about bisexual women is that they can’t be fully satisfied in a monogamous relationship because they simply must have sex with both genders to be sexually satisfied. That isn’t the case at all, and if you’re dating a bisexual woman, most of the time, she doesn’t want you to tell her it’s okay to sleep with other women if she needs to do so.

Again, there may be some women out there who are predisposed to polyamory who would appreciate that, but most bisexual women are just like heterosexual women: When they’re in a steady, monogamous relationship, they’re fully satisfied with their partners. Bisexual women don’t crave sex with both genders. If you’re dating a bi woman, she’s committed to you. She doesn’t need sex with a woman to feel complete or satisfied. You’re enough.

8. She may not find the same women attractive that you do.

Just because your girlfriend or partner is bisexual doesn’t mean she’s going to agree with you when you ask her, “Don’t you think Kaley Cuoco is gorgeous?” Just like you, she has her own taste in women. Her tastes might be in line with yours, or hers might be wildly different.

You also shouldn’t assume that she’ll be okay with you asking her about whether or not she finds other women attractive or hearing about the women you find attractive. She may be bisexual, but she’s still a woman, and she gets jealous just like any other woman would.

9. Bisexual women aren’t greedy, and they aren’t attracted to everyone they see.

Just because a bisexual woman is attracted to both sexes, that doesn’t mean she’s attracted to every man or woman she sees passing by or that she wants to sleep with everyone she meets. Bisexual women are just as discerning and picky as everyone else. They also aren’t greedy. It isn’t that they want to have sex with everyone or even multiple partners. They’re just attracted to all kinds of different people.

10. She’s more than her sexuality.

Dating a bisexual woman can be confusing, exciting, rewarding and difficult, but so can dating any woman, despite her sexuality. Women are complex creatures. They have a lot going on, and the fact that your girlfriend is bisexual is only one tiny part of her identity. She could be – and is – so many more things than just bisexual.

She’s a daughter, a sister, a mom, a painter, a dancer, a political activist, a lover of Game of Thrones, a coffee-addict, a reader, a math teacher, an astronaut, an animal-lover, a cowgirl, a world traveler and on and on and on. Your girlfriend may be all of these things, or she may be none of these things, but she’s definitely more than her sexuality. Don’t define her strictly by her sexual identity. Not only is it offensive, but it’s also doing both you and her a great disservice.

Dating a bisexual woman can be a very rewarding experience, but you can’t go into the experience with a bunch of false ideas and unrealistic expectations. If you do that, things likely won’t go very well for you. The best thing to remember is that bisexual women are people like everyone else. Treat them with the same respect, kindness, and affection you would use with any other woman, and you’ll be fine. If you start treating them like a novelty sex trophy, though, things are going to go downhill fairly quickly.

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How to Find Bisexual Friends on Facebook

If you are someone who’s been looking to meet more bisexual friends, you may or may not have already discovered that it’s not as easy as you’d think it would be. Finding out whether or not someone is bisexual is not something that you can determine just by going around asking people on the street: “Hi! I’m Steve. Are you bisexual, and if so, would you like to be friends?” That would be more likely get you a spot in a jail cell than a new bisexual friend. That doesn’t mean you can’t find new bi friends though. You just need to know where to look.

This article will help you navigate step-by-step through all the things you need to do to find bisexual friends on Facebook.

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What is Facebook?

Facebook is one of the most popular social media apps/websites to be found on the internet today. Established in 2004 by a college student, it now has over 2.23 billion users. The biggest draw to Facebook is that it’s free. Anyone aged 13 or older can set up a free account to connect with family, friends, professional acquaintances, their favorite actors and singers or even strangers.

It’s a place where people can chat, share videos, pictures, stories and more with all the people on their friend’s lists. The site works by allowing users to send “friend requests” to other users. Those other users then have the option to accept the friend request or deny it. If they accept the request, the two users are then friends, and they can see each other’s posts, pictures, messages, etc. If the user denies the request, the two won’t be connected, and the second user has the option of blocking the person from trying to contact him/her again.

How Do I Sign Up?

Signing up for Facebook is incredibly easy. All you have to do is visit Facebook.com or download the app and create a free account using your name, birth date and email address. Facebook will then send you an email to confirm your identity and that you actually did create the account. Then you’re all set!

Do I Have to Provide Personal Info about Myself? Can I See Other People’s Personal Info?

How much info you provide on your account is entirely up to you. Facebook asks you lots of different questions. Some of these include where you’re from, where you live currently, whether you’re interested in men or women, where you work, what type of education you have, etc. The list of questions is pretty comprehensive; however, aside from necessary info like name, birth date and email, you aren’t required to answer any of the other questions. The same is true of all other users.

Additionally, users can choose to answer all the questions, but they can adjust their privacy settings to set conditions on who’s allowed to see their information. Some users keep their information 100% confidential. Others allow people to see their information only after they’ve accepted a friend request from another person. Still others leave all of their information public for anyone to see. You can choose who gets to see what types of information about you, just as other users can control what you get to know about them.

How to Find Bisexual Friends on Facebook

Step 1: Create an Account

The first step you need to take to find bisexual friends on Facebook is to create your own free account. Check out the above-listed info on how to do this.

Step 2: Check Out the “Interested In” Section

If you’re hoping to find a bisexual friend on Facebook, you can start by looking at a person’s “Interested In” section on his or her profile. This is where the person says whether she’s interested in men, women or both. This isn’t a 100% surefire way of telling whether or not someone is bisexual though. Some users, especially older users, often choose both men and women because they’re interested in receiving friend requests from both sexes, not because they’re interested in both sexes sexually.

Step 3: Search for Bisexual Groups

Facebook also has a great feature that allows users to join different groups, and there are Facebook groups for just about everything. There are citywide yard sale groups, lost and found pet groups, community and neighborhood groups, specific club, high school or industry groups and more. The “more” often consists of more risque groups such as the “Find Bisexual Friends East Coast” group or the “Friends with Benefits” group.

Most larger cities/counties/areas have their own specific regional groups for people looking to meet other bisexuals. In addition to those already listed, here are some of the most popular ones:

  1. Bisexual Friends😘
  2. LGBT+ Women of Alabama
  3. Bi Support And Help Community
  4. Bisexual Friends 💓💓💓
  5. LGBT+ Circle of Friends: Bisexual Support

Joining these types of groups is the fastest and most accurate way to ensure you meet new bisexual friends.

Step 4: Create Your Own Group

If you’re looking for bisexual friends in all the different groups listed and just aren’t finding what you’re hoping to find, create your own group! Just like signing up for Facebook, creating your own group is free. You simply go to the Facebook Groups page (see the link above) and select “Create New Group.” You then name the group, select the group’s privacy settings and whether or not the group will be visible in searches. After that, you’re all set. You can sit back and let the bisexual friends come to you.

Step 5: Use Your Mutual Friends

Facebook has another great feature that can make it a little easier to find bisexual friends. Once you start adding people to your friend’s list, you’ll then see a bar across the top of your feed that says, “People You May Know.” This is a list of people who share mutual friends in common with you. Scroll through the profiles; see if someone catches your attention. If so, click on the “Mutual Friends” button to see who you have in common. Then start asking that person questions to see if the person who caught your eye might also be bisexual.

Using Dating Apps and Sites to Find Bisexual Friends

The quest for bisexual friends isn’t always an easy one, but the great news is there are plenty of sites out there to help you achieve your goals. You aren’t strictly limited to Facebook either. There are all kinds of websites and apps that are specifically designed to help you meet new bisexual friends or even potential partners. Bisexual Dating is one such site. Others include sites and apps like BiCupid, Her, Tinder and more.

These types of apps are usually more specific than Facebook as well. Anyone can use social media for any reason, not just to find bisexual friends or potential hook-ups. For example, grandmothers stay connected with their grandchildren through sites like Facebook all the time. The dating apps and sites, though, are actually designed for meeting people for a specific purpose – dating and/or hooking up.

Just make sure you read the fine print before signing up with these types of dating sites. Many of them, such as Tinder and BiCupid, are 100% free unless you want to upgrade to a premium profile. Others, though, require you to pay money to use their services. With those types of sites, you can look, but you can’t touch. In other words, you can set up a free account and view people’s profiles, but the only way you can actually reach out and talk to anyone on those sites is by paying a subscription fee.

Basically, the trick is to not get discouraged. If you’re on the hunt for new bisexual friends, they are out there. It’s just up to you to find them. Using these resources, you shouldn’t have too much trouble.

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How to Meet Bisexual Women (10 best options)

Whether you’re a woman looking to meet bisexual women or if you’re in a committed relationship and you and your partner are looking for a bisexual woman to join you, finding someone can be difficult. Dating is often hard for straight, single people, but trying to date when you’re interested in a same-sex partner often makes things a lot harder. It’s not as if you can go around asking random women if they, too, are into women.

Put simply, meeting bisexual women isn’t easy. It certainly isn’t impossible though. You just need to know where to look.

The 10 Best Options to Meet Bisexual Women

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1. Use Bisexual Dating Websites

One great thing about living in the digital age is that no matter what you’re looking for in a partner, the internet has certainly made it easier to find. This is also true if you are looking to meet bisexual women. Sites such as OkCupid, Her, GirlfriendsMeet, and Tinder are four of the most often used dating sites for bisexual women.

All of these options can be used absolutely for free, although you can upgrade to premium accounts if you’re willing to pay. The great thing about these types of sites is that you can be very specific in what you’re looking for in a partner or a third. The sites ask you to name just about everything you’d like in a perfect partner: what you want her to look like, her age, whether or not she smokes and/or drinks, whether or not she wants children, what type of relationship she is looking for, etc.

2. Visit Local Lesbian Bars

Just as gay bars are a popular place to find gay and bisexual men, lesbian bars are great places to find bisexual women and lesbians. Lesbian bars started popping up in the 1970s, and originally, they were strictly for lesbians. As time progressed and gender identities and sexual orientations became more and more fluid, they became popular places for all members of the LGBTQ community.

You can usually find lesbian bars fairly easily in every major city in the United States, and even smaller, less metropolitan cities generally have one or two. Just be sure you’re open about your bisexual orientation and that the women you meet there know exactly what you’re after in a relationship.

3. Create an Empty Closets Account

If you’re looking for bisexual women but don’t want to sign up for a dating app right away, Empty Closets is a safe, practical, non-dating online site where you can meet and chat with bi females without the pressure to set up a date right away. This site is especially great for people just accepting or exploring their own sexuality and is open to users from age 13 to 200. If you’re looking to cultivate friendships or build something substantial with another bisexual woman before jumping into anything, Empty Closets is the site to use.

4. Visit Clubs, Bars, Coffee Shops, Book Stores and Other Places Near Art School Campuses

While cliches are usually thought of in a negative light, some cliches are cliches for a reason. One of these is that bisexual females often attend art and/or performing art colleges and universities. If you’re truly interested in dating a bisexual woman, any type of hangout spot near an art school is probably a good place to look.

5. Don’t Discount Social Media

Sites like Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and Instagram often get overlooked in the search to meet bisexual women, but they really shouldn’t. Social media can be a great place to find women who are interested in other women or who are interested in joining an already established couple. There are several ways to use social media to find whatever type of date you’re looking to find, especially on Facebook.

In addition to perusing profiles of “People You May Know” and “Mutual Friends,” Facebook now has its very own dating feature. Additionally, there are tons of public, private and semi-private groups set up by individuals on Facebook that are specifically for meeting bisexual and queer women. Some of these include LGTBQ Portland, Proud & Out – Alabama LGBT, Southern Bisexual Folks, Gay Lesbian or Bisexual in Hollywood and more. These groups allow you to meet local queer and bi females in or near your area.

6. Frequent Open Mic Nights at Local Clubs/Bars

Although it’s another cliche, if you want to meet bisexual women, you should definitely hit up your local Open Mic Nights. Whether they enjoy singing, slam poetry or just playing guitar, you’re bound to meet bisexual women at an Open Mic Night. You’ll find a lot of these in university towns, but there are generally a few going on every weekend in any major metropolitan area.

7. Vacation and/or Move to a Liberal City

If you live in a rural, conservative town like Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, you may have some genuine trouble finding bisexual women. It isn’t that there aren’t any bi females there; it’s just that they aren’t as vocal about it, and there aren’t a lot of opportunities for going out and meeting them openly.

If you move to a more liberal city such as San Francisco or New York City, you’ll have much better luck dating bisexual women. There are whole communities of LGBTQ individuals in liberal cities, and they are very open about their preferences. Of course, it may not be practical for you to uproot your whole life and move to a new city, but you could choose to vacation in one of the fifty most liberal cities for your next vacation.

8. Use Your Mutual Friends

In every friend group, there are generally at least one or two women who identify as bisexual, even in the most conservative of places. Don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you’re looking to meet someone and let them help hook you up with friends and friends of friends that they already know are bisexual.

9. Join Local Singles Groups or Support Groups

If you, yourself, are a bisexual woman, especially one who is struggling with or just accepting your sexuality, joining a support group could be hugely beneficial for more than one reason. In addition to helping you come to terms with your sexuality, giving you a place to discuss how you can talk about it with friends and family and allowing you to talk about some of the issues you’ve faced or might face, support groups are also great places to meet other bi women.

Additionally, local singles groups are also great places to meet and mingle. It’s best if you can find an LGBTQ-specific singles group to join, but free-for-all singles groups can be good places to meet other women as well. You just might have to fend off the advances of straight men at these types of places before finding the right woman.

10. Go to Church

This may seem like a totally backward, horrible idea, but many people – both heterosexual and LGBTQ – meet people at church. Try to find a local inclusion church that welcomes members of the LGBTQ community. This will help ensure you find not only a bisexual woman to date but also one who likely shares your religious beliefs as well, which is a definite plus if you’re looking for something long-term as opposed to just a quick hookup.

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How to Find a Bisexual Hookup (online & local)

According to Out Magazine, a substantial number of people identify as bisexual. Bisexuals comprise a large portion of the sexuality scale and there are plenty of them out there that are looking for bisexual hookups.

In the age of online dating, it’s easy to find people to hook up with or have a threesome with! It’s just a matter of being transparent about your needs, knowing where to look and making sure that your bisexual hookup is as fulfilling as possible for everyone involved!

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Finding a Bisexual Hookup Online

If you’re looking for a bi-curious hookup, the internet is your best friend. There are scores of online apps, websites, and groups all designed to give people what they’re looking for. Best of all, most of these online methods are totally safe, secure and full of like-minded open people.

Dating Apps and Sites

Traditional dating apps, like Tinder, can help you explore parts of your sexuality that you might not have noticed- or may have even buried! Dating apps are a very low-risk way of exploring your sexuality. You can simply flirt and interact a little bit and see what works for you!

There are also specific bisexual hookup apps and sites like BiCupid that allow couples or singles to connect for a one-time or ongoing romance. These platforms are regulated, private and totally secure. It has a very user-friendly customer service department and is easy to set up and use. It’s a great way to dip your toe into the bisexuality waters and see what’s out there.

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Social Media Groups

If dating sites are not for you, there are plenty of other ways to find a bisexual hookup. There are plenty of social media groups that cater to bisexuals and other members of the LGBTQ community. There are also plenty of MeetUp Groups where bisexuals can meet others like them in situations that are low-risk, laid back and fun.

The internet is a treasure trove of places to find sexual fulfillment! It is an especially good place to meet the very sought after unicorns. Unicorns are generally women who are into having threesomes with couples. They are difficult to find- but the internet has made them easier to locate! If you are a unicorn, you’re in luck! You’re in high demand on the internet and you can easily have the bisexual hookup of your dreams!

7 Rules To Keep In Mind For A Great Bisexual Hookup Online

There are some cardinal rules for bisexual hookups online.

  • Be transparent about what you’re looking for.
  • Be patient- you’ll find someone to click with!
  • Don’t be judgmental and remember that everyone has different tastes. If it’s not for you, just move on.
  • Make sure that you’re discreet.
  • Don’t be too eager- make sure that the chemistry is right.
  • Disclose any pertinent information like your STD and relationship status.
  • Have fun!

5 Best Ways To Find A Bisexual Hookup In Real Life

Of course, in order to have a successful bisexual hookup, you’ll need to meet the person or persons in real life. There are plenty of ways to get a local hookup if you want one!

1. Attend A MeetUp

Although you can see MeetUps online, attending one is definitely a real life experience! There are plenty of activities that these meet up groups engage in and you’ll be able to interact with other bisexuals in a laid back, non-judgemental way that lets you really explore your sexuality and make new friends.

2. Go To An LGBTQ Event

There are plenty of LGBTQ Events all over the world, so there is sure to be one in your city. Find a local calendar of LGBTQ activities and attend one!

3. Join A Sex-Positive Neighborhood Collective

Places like Hacienda House are sex-positive groups designed to dispel the shame that sometimes exists around causal sex and bisexual hookups. They have plenty of events to choose from, for every taste! Get involved with one of their workshops or social activities to supercharge your sex life and start having some meaningful hookups in real life!

4. Go To LGBTQ Bars

Before there was the option to find people online for hookups and romance, people went to specific bars to meet like-minded people! Even if you live in a smaller or mid-sized city, chances are, there is at least one LGBTQ friendly bar that you can go to. Remember to practice good pick-up etiquette and feel out the other person or persons before inviting them to have a bisexual hookup. You want to make sure that everyone is comfortable and on the same page.

5. Reach Out To Trusted Friends

If you are just exploring your bisexual identity, this might be a little bit of a scary proposition for you, but bear in mind that most people are openminded these days! Let your friends know that you’re interested in exploring a bisexual hookup and perhaps they will be interested in playing matchmaker for you! Being transparent with your friends about your desires is never a bad thing!

How To Make Your Bisexual Hookup As Safe As Possible

It is very exciting to think about finding a bisexual hookup, but there are a few things that you need to keep in mind. Don’t let desire cloud your judgment. If there is a situation that seems to be unsafe or a little questionable, always use your instincts and remember that there will be other hookups. It’s okay to walk away if you feel like things just aren’t right.

Remember That People Are Not Always Who They Project To Be Online

Watch out for catfishing, especially if you are looking for a bisexual hookup online! People can be whoever they want to be behind the safety of their computer screens, so make sure that you’re vetting potential partners properly. This is especially true if you’re a unicorn who is looking for a bisexual hookup with another couple. Always meet in a safe, public space first and be aware of any red flags.

Give And Expect Discretion

Although sexuality across the spectrum is becoming more and more destigmatized, it is still important to use discretion. Many people do not want their sexual exploits publicized and prefer to keep their sex lives separate from their professional lives. When you are operating in the hook-up space, it’s important to make sure that you’re discreet and sensitive to their privacy. In return, you should expect them to be sensitive to your privacy. The sign of a good hook-up is mutual respect.

Use Protection

If you are having casual sex, it’s important to use protection and expect your partners to use protection as well. Condoms are very effective in protecting against many STDs. If you have an STD, make sure that you disclose it to your partner or partners ahead of time. It is better to risk rejection than to unknowingly infect someone.

There are plenty of people out there who are looking to spice up their sex lives with a bisexual hookup. If you are one of them, bear in mind that there are plenty of easy, safe and fun options at your fingertips. There is no reason why you shouldn’t make the fantasy of your dreams a reality!

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